Reply To: Greetings from HellTown
As somebody with advanced terminal cancer, there will be dark days when I complain about things you say for no apparent reason. Please consider this my apology in advance for such times. There will be days that what I say is clearly wrong, making no sense: on these days I will often be argumentative. Please do not “let me slide” at such times, but rather call me out, point out what is factually wrong, and demand I explain my position. Please also consider this my apology in advance for such times.
A while back, we had a forum member here that was having a tough go of it in his battle with cancer. It was apparent from his posts that he was irritable and some of his outbursts were quite inappropriate and painful to read. After a string of these, he eventually went too far and was dropped from the forum. This was unfortunate, because he clearly was talented and knowledgeable and contributed in a positive way to the discourse.
I went through a similar situation when my father was in the last few weeks of his battle with multiple myeloma. At one point, my mother asked me to take him on a drive around the countryside in his van – something he hadn’t been able to do for some time. We stopped for gas at one point and he snarled angrily at me for insisting that I pay for the gas. Unfortunately, this tearful situation is now one of my most vivid memories of him.
Anger is probably the least productive of emotions. Try to leave your family with more positive memories. Meanwhile, you’ve joined a forum here which will strive to support you in your sharpening endeavors. We’ll try to keep open minds with regard to your situation and the moods you struggle to deal with.
Tom M
